Adolescent Counselling · Parenting

From Distraction to Direction: A Teenage Transformation

By Dr. Awanti Dhadphale

Recently, I had in the clinic a bright 17-year-old girl and her parents. “She was a brilliant student in 10th grade,” her parents shared, “but now she’s completely distracted.” Their daughter, once academically strong, was now struggling with focus.

A pattern of concerning behaviours had emerged:

• Deception: A habit of speaking lies had developed over the past couple of years.
• Secretive Habits: Hiding junk food wrappers.
• Bunking: Skipping college and classes.
• Excessive Screen Time: Continuous phone usage and addiction to social media reels.
• Sibling Dynamics: Ignoring and dominating her younger sister.

These behaviours, while distressing for parents, were highlighting unmet emotional or developmental needs in the girl.

Our Holistic Approach

My recommendations to the family:

• Warmth and Connection: Physical affection — hugs and gentle strokes — conveys unconditional love and bridges emotional gaps.
• Open Communication: Improving dialogue with unwavering attention at home.
• Physical Activity: Two hours of daily exercise to improve mood and cognitive function.
• Responsibility: Age-appropriate responsibilities to create a sense of purpose.
• Unconditional Acceptance: Fostering trust rather than constant criticism.

For the girl herself, I suggested she create her own daily timetable over her own choices — giving her agency and ownership.

In our follow-up session, the mother’s report was heartwarming: “There’s 40% improvement. We are experiencing harmony at home.” The shift in parental approach had already begun to mend the family dynamics.

— Dr. Awanti Dhadphale

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Disclaimer: This article is written for educational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult a qualified healthcare professional for personal diagnosis and treatment.